Monday, July 30, 2012

breaking up is (not so) hard to do

After all the fun of the weekend, it was back to it today.  Before the summer band break that started a couple of weeks ago, I had been contemplating a split.

I suspected cheating.  And lying.  I became suspicious of a lack of full disclosure on some issues.  Things just didn't add up.  I weighed the pros and cons.  I remember learning that change boils down to a math formula. Simply, change happens when the cost of the status quo is greater than the risk of change.

The cost of the status quo got too big.  I ended it.

It went well actually.  I gave them the old it's-not-you-it's-me speech. They received it very graciously, probably glad that I didn't spill the beans about the stuff I had on them.   I divorced that tutee family.  Ah, freedom.  Feels good!

I didn't like talking about it much because of privacy issues of the students.  And I didn't want to be whining about it around the kids.  As a result, Magnum was getting earfuls these last few weeks during our old folks walks.

In the end, the decision was easy.  The break-up was easy.  The mom wants to keep in touch, and maybe I will.  Maybe a little.

I'll just say that, despite the positive stories of homeschooled kids successes, there is a dark side to homeschooling.

The end.

Meego in herpetology heaven

In other news, Meego's reptile obsession continues.  I'm almost ready to throw in the towel and just get the darn thing already!  But no... he should wait...  We did check out a fun reptile store today, in the name of research, while running some errands.

A bearded man was playing matchmaker with me and a Bearded Dragon.  He was very good.  But I was able to resist his charms.  The store currently houses several pets that lost their homes in the fire.  Look at this cutie pie!  What a flirt!

But nope.  We managed to leave empty handed.  There's a very good chance we'll be back, though.


terri said...

I bet you breathed a big sigh of relief after the break-up.

I like the little bearded dragon. He's probably not much into cuddling, but he sure is cute. He might intimidate Kat, though.

ShadowRun300 said...

Sometimes relationships just need to end. It sounds like you handled it very well.
I can't believe you're still holding out on the lizard adoption. Such restraint!
Good thing you didn't fall for the Bearded Lizard's come-ons. It would have been tough to explain to Meego why you were bringing home a lizard and he had to wait....

Scott said...

"...change happens when the cost of the status quo is greater than the risk of change."

That is one of the most profound statements I have ever read!

Guano said...

Down dooby-doo down down, caba caba down dooby-doo down down.....
Home schoolers have a Dark Side?? And here all this time I thought they were so....protected.

Abby said...

That might be interesting. I think Kat's already put China in her place in the pecking order, where would a bearded dragon end up?

Abby said...

That's the hard part. I can't get anything either!

Abby said...

Yes, I just recently read that! Can't remember the book title at the moment, but the formula stuck.

Abby said...

Seriously? Your singing here??

I think homeschooling is often a good idea for several reasons. This case involves wrong reasons. Bordering on child neglect, I feel. I think that an outside "authority" suggested they get a tutor. They did that with me. Did they think I wouldn't notice the funny business?

LL Cool Joe said...

I think that Bearded Dragon would have to do a bit more than flirt with me to convince me to take him home. Well unless he can cut the grass, change the lightbulbs, empty the dishwasher....then I might change my mind.

agg79 said...

Playing hard to get, I see. But I think Meego is wearing you down. I see some reptilian house guest in your future. bearded or not.