"Love is being stupid together" -- Paul Valery
I met Magnum in college (woo, real original...). At that time, he lived in a garden-level apartment that was in a prime location in that very college town. He often tells the story of getting that place.
He was fresh out of the army and looking for a place to live close to campus. This apartment was part of a large house on "The Hill" - prime student housing locale. It was the first place he checked, and he told the landlady he'd like to move in. She told him to go look some more.
"So you know how good this one is".
He did and did.
I sometimes think I should've used the same tactic as the landlady. See, I was Magnum's first "real" girlfriend. Oh, he'd had a few prior "run ins" of the I-don't-want-to-be-stuck-home-on-Prom-night variety, or the make-my-ex-jealous variety, or the I-like-free-food variety, or just the plain old I'm-desperate-and-have-other-issues variety. "Long term" is not a phrase that would apply to any. "Relationship" is even quite a stretch.
As for me...
Like the landlady, I'd had a few prior "renters". I'd had the teen love/broken heart drama. I'd had the long distance drama. I'd had 2 marriage proposals and an almost drama. I'd even had one What?-Married?!-"open marriage"-WHAT?!? drama.
Then there was the assortment of others that just didn't last out of bad timing or whatever. Yes, I suppose I had enough relationship baggage for the both of us. By the time we got together, nothing much fazed me. And with him, it was easy.
I never feel unappreciated, but sometimes I remember that landlady's words of wisdom and wonder if I should've told him to "go look some more, so you know how good this one is".
Contrast can be good... on Valentine's day.