Thursday, January 22, 2009

minding my business

"I understand your anger at your ex for having an affair and wrecking the family, but I'm not sure if referring to them as 'Dumbass and his bimbo' is healthy for the children."

Okay, I didn't say that to her. I just said it in my mind.

I highly value honesty and boldness and even bluntness sometimes. But often, it's best to bite the tongue. In fact, it's a good thing for my own tongue that my in-laws don't visit very often. And I guess it's good that I have a blog to let off steam now and then. It's what got me through my sister-in-law's tacky wedding a couple years back.

Some other unsaid thoughts as of late:

"I'm worried about you breaking your arm from all that patting yourself on the back."

"I really don't think that [somewhat famous person you are friends with] would appreciate you telling this entire gathering that her daughter used to put crayons up her [female body part] as a child."

"STOP with the googly eyes already!"

"I'm happy that you're happy with your weight-loss success, but your new clothing choices really make you look like a hooker."

"What are you trying to hide?"

"I don't care to hear the whole story about how you found your window installers. Really, I don't. Seriously, please stop talking!"

Okay. I feel better now.


  1. You know some people with extreme personalities, I'm guessing. I can relate to some of these types. I've perfected the innocent-smile-don't-let-them-know-what-you're-thinking-look quite well, I think.

  2. Yikes.... I can only imagine how hard it is to bite your tongue around someone like that! BIG KUDOS to you for dealing so well!

  3. Wow. Sounds like one of my family gatherings. I just learn to bite my tongue (or what's left of it) and nod my head saying "well, bless your little heart". Nothing you can do will ever change their personalities, so you must find your own outlet (blogging, drinking, running) for letting off steam....

  4. Unfortunately, I have a VERY difficult time not speaking my mind...probably my greatest downfall. I really must work harder on that...

  5. I always thought it would be interesting to have one magical day a year where everyone could say what they were really thinking, with no consequences. One day only of course, so we didn't all kill each other.

    Sometimes you kind of need the tact... Then again, I've worked in retail so much that it's kind of default for me.

  6. *writes in idea notebook*

    Oh, sorry. are we filming?

    Ha! Loved this entry, Abby. I have those days all the time in the restaurant biz.

  7. I'm with 'Goes by the anme of Anna' on this! We have all sorts of holidays ... Cesar Chavez day, ML King day, why not SPEAK YOUR MIND day!? What a GREAT idea!...*picks up phone book to find Senator's number*....

  8. You really hit the hammer on the head with this one. I have the misfortune that my face reveals exactly what I think, so tact and diplomacy are only partially successful.