I spent 2 months with my coach. Our sessions were each scheduled a week apart. Have a session - digest for a week - have another session - digest for a week... I thought that worked pretty well.
I never really knew where a coaching session would go. She would ask me questions, and then based on my answers, she'd ask more questions - all the while providing insights. Sometimes I had trouble answering. Sometimes my answers surprised me. Sometimes the inner critic BIOTCH tried to join in. Often, the session would go somewhere else entirely than what I'd expected.
And there was homework, but good homework. One of the first "assignments" I completed was a 16" x 20" painting of the kids. My coach never said, "your homework assignment is to paint a 16" x 20" portrait of your kids", but rather the session had led us to where I decided it would be good for me to "create an artwork that was bigger than 9" x 12"". Because of some other discussion we'd had, I chose to do an acrylic portrait with all 3 kids as victims.
|Who's next, Bill Gates?|
But we didn't harp on the art thing. As coaching progressed, art still remained mostly a hobby for me. As parents, a lot of us put our desires secondary to the rest of the family's. The artplay is just the results of much needed "me time". I needed to get comfortable with doing other "me time" things.
And nothing was heavy-handed or rigid. My coach would often ask, "So, what do you think your homework should be?" Or sometimes, unexpected revelations would come up, and she would ask, "Would you like to coach on that now?"
One really helpful assignment was for me to list 10 "boundaries" - or things I would not tolerate. My list includes accepting labels for myself and others, hypocrisy, and what I call "the TGIF mentality" among other things.
After completing that, my next assignment was to list 10 "must haves" - things that energize and motivate me. I've got physical exercise, music, and creating art, among other things. I highly recommend brainstorming these lists for yourself. Be as nurturing and as naughty *wink*wink*nudge*nudge* as you want!
And as these sessions went on, I noticed that I felt different. I felt better - more confident, more relaxed. The different buckets in my life were improved too. I thought I was a better teacher, a better mom, a better wife, a better friend. I also think my artwork and writing improved. In the midst of this, I joined a local writer's group and jumped on NaBloPoMo to enjoy the challenge of blogging every day.
Before this, I was restless and feeling stuck and thinking that my life was passing too quickly. It's kind of funny, looking back now. I thought a life coach would help me find a "job". Now, I've got inspired plans. In some ways, I can't do them quickly enough. I know it's not for everybody, but working with a coach was worth it for me. As long as I remembered to keep a sense of humor too, and not take myself too seriously!
Let's share some links,shall we?
Here's my coach's site. Tell her Abby Normal sent you and she will ... "What??"
Then there's the site with the helpful questionnaires.
I read and learned from this book, as the author was Coachly recommended.
TED has a lot of interesting talks on a variety of subjects.
Okay then?! Carry on, my waywards!
(... there'll be peace... don't you cry no mo'... GUITAR SOLO!)
"Never wait until you are good at something before you start doing it.” - Brent Kelly