"When I cut my hair, the whole sound changed, my style changed"
When I was little, around 3 and 4 years old, my mother kept my hair short. "Pixie cut", it was known as, but bottom line, I looked like a boy.
<----Short-haired and girlie looking in a pink dress. I don't actually remember ever wearing a pink dress. Same goes for today.
I really didn't think much about it - I was a toddler/preschooler - until a stranger like a waitress or such would indicate she thought I was a boy. When that would happen, I often felt surprise and then embarrassment bordering on humiliation.
Surprise, because I was a girl. I didn't think much about my appearance, but on the inside I was a girl, I had been one for my entire 4 years of life!
Once I was older and more assertive (kindergarten), I let my mom know that I wanted "girl hair". It wasn't about my looks or personality preference, it was all about the being-mistaken-for-a-boy thing. And actually, growing up, I was quite a tomboy. My neighborhood was full of boys, so my socializing consisted of playing sports with them and listening to their crude jokes.
But it's one thing to be a tomboy and another to look like a boy. The hair was never allowed to get too short.
Eventually, my not-too-short hair and I grew up, and Magnum and I moved to Rochester, NY. It's very humid in Rochester, NY. Combine my longish hair and NY humidity and strange things happen. My hair got HUGE.
I put up with it for the first few years - battening it down with barretts and scrunchies (remember the 90's??). Then the kids came along, I "retired" to be a stay-at-home-mom, and the hair fights had to go. I cut it. I cut it like it had never been cut. I cut it and cut it.
It was a bit of a shock. It's interesting to me how much of "us" is in our hair - especially us women. I was never one to put a lot of fussing into my hair, and yet I felt really different after I cut it. I felt good actually, after all that heat and humidity hair I'd been smothered under. I felt somehow better and actually felt smarter because of a haircut!
Taking bicycler novice Chaco for a "short" ride ---->
We eventually moved back to drier climes, and I no longer liked the short hair. As the humidity went down, so did the hair.
Yesterday, I read a blog entry about women and short hair, and what the short hair indicates about them - whether it's true or not. Look at models, and most all of them have long hair. What perceptions do you have based on a woman's hair length?
I remember a few years ago, I was at the veterinarian's with one of our dogs. A friendly woman with a friendly dog about the same size as mine walked in, and our two dogs soon became happy friends in the waiting area.
This woman was also a friendly dog lover, and as our canines enjoyed some social time, she and I did too. But I confess, that during this little assemblage, in the back of my mind, I was wondering if she was just a friendly person, or if she "liked me" liked me.
All because she had a buzz cut. Not full-on G.I. Jane, but close to it.
I don't recall her acting particularly "butchy", nor was she dressed like a lumberjack. My perception was all about the hair. What is it about a woman with a buzz cut that says "lesbian"? And in the end, does it even matter?
Have you ever made drastic changes to your hair - particularly its length? Why? Do you have preconceived notions based on women's hairstyles?